Hadith of the Guarantee

Hadith of the Guarantee
by Shaykh Abdur-Razzaq bin Abdul-Muhsin Al-Abbaad حفظهما الله
on Saturday, April 8th, 2006
http://albaseerah.org/forum/showthread.php?t=1658

QUESTIONS & ANSWERS

1. Question: Is it allowed to keep the daily newspaper inside the house (as it also contains pictures)? How do we understand the hadith the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم: “The angels do not enter into a house (room) where there is a picture”[5] and other similar ahaadeeth about those that make pictures that they will be tortured on the Day of Resurrection[6]?
Answer: The issue is as mentioned by questioner regarding the danger of pictures or picture-taking. Indeed there is a great threat as it relates to it and it is very dangerous. For this reason, that which the Muslims should do as it relates to these pictures, is to only keep in his home that which is of dire necessity, or if there is a great need for these pictures. That which there is no need for should be gotten rid of. That which remains should be only pictures known as (الصور الممتحنة) – the pictures that are not used for glorification by being placed on walls etc. As it relates to other than these types of pictures then one should strive to get rid of rest of them to best of his ability because it is a dangerous issue.

2. Question: I have two daughters who are currently living in Egypt with their father. He does not allow me to speak with them unless he is able to be there with them. He spends most of his time here in America while they are there with his wife. I would like my children back here with me or if that is not possible I want some kind of relationship with them. I have not spoken to my children for three (3) years, and have not seen them for four (4) years. What is your advice to me and to him?
Answer: The first thing is to advise the woman with patience and to seek her reward from Allaah سبحانه و تعالى as this is indeed a great calamity that has befallen her regarding her children. We ask Allaah سبحانه و تعالى to make her affair easy and we advise her to make du’aa to Allaah سبحانه و تعالى to make her affair easy and to correct the affair and to correct this issue that has been the cause of her not talking to or seeing her children for that length of time.

As it relates to the daughters, they are acquiring sin by not contacting their mother. This type of contact and relationship with their mother is obligatory upon them. For them to continue in this type of cutting off of ties – this type of boycott/abandonment is not permissible no matter what reason they give. The mother has a great status in Islaam and a great status as it regards her children. Allaah سبحانه و تعالى will ask those daughters on the Day of Judgement about this mother and their relationship with their mother.

As it relates to her not having any contact with her daughters for three years – this is from despicable character, on the part of the one who has caused this disconnection between the two. We advise her to try to treat situation in best way possible even if she has to call her former husband and remind him to fear Allaah سبحانه و تعالى in a way that is better, even if she has to write to him reminding him about the duty a daughter has for their mother and the relationship that a mother and chid should be able to have.

Likewise, her speech with the daughters should be that which is lenient, gentle and not harsh. Maybe it was something that she said to the daughters about the (former) husband that caused him to take such a hard stance and cut-off the relationship between the daughters and the mother – maybe it is something he heard from her, or maybe not. If this was the reason then she should leave that off and she should make the relationship between her and her daughters be one of goodness and reminding one another to be obedient to Allaah سبحانه و تعالى and it should be a relationship based on helping them in obedience to Allaah عز و جل.

3. Question: We are living as a minority in the lands of the kuffar. Many incidents of verbal abuse occur here. For instance, you may be driving a vehicle and some of the kuffar use hand signals or yell out to you. Are you able to retaliate with the like of them, i.e., make hand signals back or stop the car to threaten them or should you have sabr(patience) so that you can also give them Da’wah to Islaam?
Answer: The answer is as the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said: “the Muslim is not one who curses others nor is he one who is a constant criticizer nor does he have a filthy mouth or filthy actions.”[7] This type of filth that is done with hand signals and verbal threats/abuse is not to be retaliated with its like, because the Believer, as the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said, is not filthy in his actions or statements. Allaah سبحانه و تعالى says when describing the servants of Ar-Rahmaan:
وَإِذَا مَرُّوا بِاللَّغْوِ مَرُّوا كِرَاماً
{… and if they pass by some evil play or evil talk, they pass by it with dignity.}[Al-Furqaan 25:72]

Also, Allaah سبحانه و تعالى says:
وَأَعْرِضْ عَنِ الْجَاهِلِينَ
{… and turn away from the foolish} [Al-A’raaf 7:199]

However, if it is at all possible to give this person some advice or da’wah, then this should be done, if not, then one should walk by them, as the poet says: “And I may walk by a foolish person and he curses me and I keep on walking and I say that doesn’t concern me” Meaning that you walk by these type of people and you deal with them like you didn’t even see them do anything or hear them say anything.

4. Question: If sisters are taking Islaamic classes in the Masjid downstairs and the musallah is upstairs or vice versa and the salaah time comes in, is it a must for the sisters to attend the Jamaa’ah or can they do their salaah later?
Answer: That which is most appropriate i.e. that which the Muslimah should do if she is in the masjid at that time when the salaah is established, is to pray with the Muslims in Jamaa’ah. If salaah is taking place and she is sitting and talking with other sisters this is not appropriate; rather, if she is in the Masjid when the salaah is being made she should pray with the Muslims in Jamaa’ah.

5. Question: Can one give monetary assistance to needy kuffar in order to invite them to Islaam?
Answer: Yes, it is permissible to give assistance to the needy ones even if they are disbelievers. This assistance may be in the form of money in order to bring their hearts closer and to invite them to Islaam. In the books of Aadaab (characteristics, moral behaviour etc.) there is a chapter called “Giving a gift to the mushrik”and they give evidence for that. Likewise Allaah سبحانه و تعالى says in the Qur’aan:
لا يَنْهَاكُمُ اللَّهُ عَنِ الَّذِينَ لَمْ يُقَاتِلُوكُمْ فِي الدِّينِ وَلَمْ يُخْرِجُوكُم مِّن دِيَارِكُمْ أَن تَبَرُّوهُمْ  وَتُقْسِطُوا إِلَيْهِمْ إِنَّ اللَّهَ يُحِبُّ الْمُقْسِطِينَ
Allâh does not forbid you to deal justly and kindly with those who fought not against you on account of religion nor drove you out of your homes. Verily, Allâh loves those who deal with equity. [al-Mumtahanah 60:8]

It is stipulated as a condition when giving assistance in the form of money that you ensure that it is not used in a manner that is impermissible, for example, do not give to someone who will use it to buy intoxicants or to go and do something impermissible with a prostitute or to use it to gamble or the like. Rather, if they need to use it for food, drink their home etc. then this is permissible.

6. Question: What do you say about talking about the people of innovation in a joking manner, in order to laugh and joke about them and give them nicknames in order to belittle them?
Answer: To mention the bad characteristics of a person of bid’ah especially if he is one who calls to his bid’ah, then to mention his faults in giving naseehah and advice to the Muslim is permissible in order to warn the Muslims from this individual. However, the aspect of mocking this individual and being sarcastic and laughing at him etc. is not from advice to the Believers. It is very important that one differentiates between the two affairs: naseehah (advice) by mentioning the faults of the individual in order to warn the people and the other affair of mocking people which is a despicable trait.

7. Question: Is it allowed to read parenting books from non-Muslims, and applying those principles when raising our children so long as those principles and theories do not contradict Islamic teachings?
Answer: In the Book of Allaah سبحانه و تعالى and the Sunnah of His Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم you will find that which will suffice the Muslim and does not allow the Muslim to be left to these other means. That which is upon this woman and the likes of her is to go back to the Book of Allaah سبحانه و تعالى and the Sunnah of the Prophetصلى الله عليه و سلم and that which has been gathered from these two sources by the People of Knowledge, relating to the topic of tarbiyyah (nurturing and cultivating the children) so that she can nurture her children in accordance with the Book of Allaah سبحانه و تعالى and the Sunnah of the Prophet سلم صلى الله عليه و.

She should not go by herself and read the books written by people who are not trustworthy and then become fooled by them. Perhaps she may be one who is tried in her religion, or her children may be tried and tested with this type of fitnah and they may be raised in a manner which is far from that which Islaam commands and encourages us to be upon. And perhaps she may believe that these characteristics which she is trying to instill in her children are beneficial, and perhaps it may not occur to her until it is too late, that the things that she has been instilling in her children are wrong i.e. when she sees the negative results of giving them these characteristics that are far from the Book and the Sunnah.

As it is said ‘there is nothing equal to being safe’, so it is safe for her and better for her, and she will find that which is sufficient in turning back to Book of Allaah سبحانه و تعالى and the Sunnah of the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم.

References

Al-Qur’an was-Sunnah Society of New York
http://albaseerah.org
http://studyislaam.org

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